Can you live without your smartphone?
I think I could, in theory… maybe. I mean, if I really tried, definitely.
Now, obviously I can literally live without my phone, but in terms of convenience, information accessibility, and productivity, the smartphone has proven to be an absolute technological game changer for me. With an answer to any question right there at my fingertips, apps for every situation imaginable, and the continual addition of new features and apps, it’s hard to remember what life was like before my iPhone.
With the smartphone, the potential for productivity we daily carry in our pockets truly is remarkable.
But our phones are also dangerously distracting, especially for Christians.
Be honest, how many mornings have you woken up, intent on spending time in the Word, and found yourself instead frittering away the time on Twitter or YouTube or some other time waster?
Has the time in the evenings which you used to spend reading been eclipsed by mindless scrolling through Instagram or tapping addictive phone games?
The smartphone is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it grants us the ability to use apps which can make us more organized, more accessible, and more informed. But on the other hand, it can be a spiraling pit of distraction, actually making us less productive. And all this doesn’t even begin to unpack the potential for sin that palm-sized hell-portal carries in its tiny frame.
What are we supposed to do?
Do we revert to dumb phones and forego the myriad blessings the smartphone bestows on us? Do we search out a new product like this awesome minimalist phone? Or is there a way we can actually harness the good parts of our smartphones while not being sucked in by the distracting parts?
I believe I have found a way to maximize the usefulness of my phone while minimizing its potential for distraction.
Two questions led me to two rules.
First, I asked myself, “when is my phone most useful to me, such that I’m legitimately averse to giving it up?” The answer came quite easily: In the car and at work. I use my phone in the car for audiobooks, podcasts, music, and GPS. Those are things I don’t really want to give up. And because of the nature of my work, I am often away from my desk and need to be reachable. Plus it is really handy to have quick access to control some of the systems we use on campus without returning to my desk or lugging my computer everywhere.
Second, “when is my phone most distracting to me?” Answer: “when I am at home.” This was the real breakthrough—everything that I find distracting about my phone happens when I am at home.
The funny thing about using my phone to “relax” like this was that I actually ended up feeling busier and overwhelmed. Because when I wasn’t reading, writing, or doing projects around the house, I sensed the task list piling up. And on my phone, I just ended up feeling more stressed out by the things I watched and read (anyone with a Twitter account can attest to the anger-inducing nature of the platform).
But when I applied the following two rules, suddenly I felt far more relaxed and I realized that I had more time on my hands than I ever dreamed. In fact, far from feeling overly busy, I was downright bored! And boredom drove me to do projects I had put off for months, and pursue lines of inquiry in the Word which I had long desired to pursue, but felt too busy to undertake. If I say this was life changing, I am not being dramatic!
So, here are the two rules to dull the distracting blade of the two-edged sword which is the smartphone without doing away with the productive blade.
Rule 1: never use your smartphone at home
I have a phone cupboard in my kitchen which I’ve rigged with a charging cable (and no a phone cupboard isn’t a thing, I made it up. It’s just a cupboard I put my phone in. Okay?). Here’s how it works, when I walk in the door, I turn my phone off of silent, plug it into the phone cupboard, and close the door. I turn it off of silent so I can hear if I get a phone call or a text. If you get a lot of phone calls or texts in your off hours you may need to come up with a different solution, but I don’t actually get that many. I then leave my phone shut away for the whole night.
When morning comes, habit tells me to check my phone, but the phone cupboard puts enough friction between me and the phone that I am reminded to repress that reflex (this is why I don’t use it as an alarm). With this solution, I have also begun setting my Bible out and open to the passage I plan to read for morning devotions the night before. In this way, the skids of discipline are greased, while the phone cupboard adds an encumbrance to my telephonic distractibility.
I have enlisted my wife to keep me accountable on this rule because I legitimately forget some nights (or rage against my own draconian rules!). I gave her full permission to scold and mock me if I’m using my phone at home, she has taken up that charge nobly.
I gotta tell you, this first rule has given me such a renewed peace of mind. I can’t tell you how much less cluttered my brain feels. I honestly do not miss it.
The second rule helps for the times when I have chosen to have my phone with me.
Rule 2: No Time Wasting apps (games, youtube, facebook, twitter, etc.)
When I realized that my phone really was useful when I was away from home, and especially at work, I had to figure out how I would handle the phone when it wasn’t tucked away in the phone cupboard. The phone could still be a pitfall when I was out of the house, so how do I mitigate those distractions endemic to it? Namely, games, videos, news, and social media are a big time suck for me. I can stop to check something on my phone and lose half an hour and it feels like 5 minutes—like some kind of stupid reverse Narnia.
So, I’ve vowed to not have any wasteful apps on the phone. I got rid of all games, video apps, the Facebook app, and the Twitter app. Now, it’s true, if I really want, I can get to these services through the browser, but again, it’s friction to distraction—it is harder than using the app. So, I don’t do it unless I really need or want to.
These rules have helped to ensure that what I get from my smartphone really is of the most benefit to me. Of course, I still do find ways waste time on there, but I get bored way faster because I’ve crippled my phone. I broke its spirit and now my phone serves me!
This all might seem pathetic to some people. “Just exercise some self-control.” Well to that I simply say, sometimes self-control takes a little planning.
If you struggle with the double-edged sword of your smartphone, I hope these rules sparked some ideas about how you can sheathe the weapon when it has the most potential to be harmful so that you can keep it at the ready for those situations which make phones so beneficial.
If you have iOS 12 on your device there’s another really good feature for helping to battle smartphone distraction: How I Use Screen Time on iOS 12 to Fight iPhone Distraction.